A Second Death for Mom
Hello dear friends, I had a dream night before last. For the entire day afterward I had zero energy and my usual thought-patterns that run at lightspeed were non-existant. I felt completely drained mentally, emotionally, physically and psychically all day.
I dreamed that I was with Mom in some kind of medical facility where she lay dying. I just waited with her, holding her hand and hoping that she find peace. All the while she lay on the bed unmoving. There was bustling activity in the hallways with people busily coming and going, but it was completely silent.
Finally, I realized that she had died. After realizing this, she moved her arms, rolled slightly to the left and moaned out loud just once.
I thought I was wrong and she had NOT died. But a nurse came in and briskly took over. She said what I'd witnessed was "normal" after death occured. I was confused. I woke up feeling drained, empty and sad.
This is the first time I dreamed of her since she died seven months ago when I was the only one in her hospice room. I was sleeping when she passed away at midnight, after seven days of hospice. Twenty-six years ago, when my oldest daughter was born, Mom became a Jehovah's Witness. Her religious beliefs led her to brainwash my daughter to believe I was a servant of satan because I did not follow her chosen path. Obviously this caused an impossible rift between us. When I learned last autumn that she was dying, and at the request of my daughter, I summoned up the compassion to forgive her for destroying not only the relationship she and I once enjoyed, but also the relationship between my daughter and I. I forgave her, expressed my deep and undying love for her and stayed with her until her death.
I feel strongly that this dream means something important but I'm at a loss to see it. I hope someone here can help me figure out what message I'm giving myself.
With much love to you all!
Tags: death, love
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